A lot of you may or may not know That I had a hard year last year. I really think what kept me going was that i was a temple working in the Salt Lake Temple at the time. It kept me feeling that I was needed and loved here in Utah. I left a singles ward where I felt the leadership in the ward was didnt want to work with me much with the issues that I had at the time. If you want to know feel free To ask I wont go into much detail on that here. But I felt that they would say one thing to and then not do it. So what did do I left the ward for a family ward. Where I talked to no one week after week and no one talked to me. So church wise the Temple was the only place where i felt that I was needed. I remembered the 1st time I went to the temple after it opened after 6 or so weeks after it closed to have some work done on it. I felt loved and needed. I cried all though out the session. That week it opened I think i went on tuesday, wednesday, thursday and saturday .
I ended it up moving to a new area where I could start over. And I did try somewhat to get to know people. I had my ups and my downs during this year. During my down times i made excuses on why things where going the way they where going because it was the easy todo. So its been a down time for a bit and i just let it go. But why should it go the rest of the year. Peace Out
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Tuesday, January 8, 2013
Am I made out for a singles ward?
Well 2012 was not my best year. Though the event of it I came to the conclusion that people just do not care about or my concerns. Its hard to get past it when the same things keep on popping up over and over again.
I started to get bored of my church calling about a year ago and asked to be released and I listed the reason why I wanted out. Well when they called me to a new calling it had every reason why I hated my current calling. While I did accept the calling I made it clear that I did not really want for said reason. As well as other. The bishop told me not to worry about it that that he would call other in the committee so make it so that I wouldn’t have to do everything. And he never did. I felt that he just said what was every best at the moment to get me to accept the calling. This was the last time I felt that the bishop did something like this to me.
I also had a big issue with my home teaching list. It was pretty much the opposite of a visiting teaching just mainly dudes. I didn’t think I was asking for much to make it more balance. I felt that every time I got my home teaching list was this way. I went to the elder quorum after each time getting it and asked for change. I kept on be told that it will be change and then followed by some lame excuse why it was change. Like 'Oh we must of forgot to do it' or 'we did change it but we must of unchanged it when we realized their roommate was being taught by someone one else' or 'Its to hard to make the list even because there is more girls that are living with each other then guys so it cant be done' To which I thought ok a ratio of 9 guys to 2 girls is no the reason why that is but what ever. Then one time I found out that they where making changes to the list. I sent a quick text that said 'be sure to add some girls my home teaching list'. I got a text back saying 'how do you know we are redoing them' to which I responded back 'I know everything'. When Sunday rolled around I got my home teaching list and it was the same as before. So I pretty much threw the list back in one of the counselor face and walked out of the church. We did come by my place that day and we talked about it. Then a few days later The president talked with me about it. 1 person was added after that I was still unhappy about it (it was more a slap in the face to me. we know that you have an issue with this so we will just add one name to your list). It seemed like they just didn’t cared about it enough to change it. because after all I am a loser why should they care.
I stayed in the singles ward for a while longer but I realized after awhile this ward is not for me. So i started to go to a family ward where I figured you know what they wont care about me as well because I am a single guy and I’m ok with that because I expect that of a family ward and not a singles ward. So i went each week and really didn’t talk to anyone nor did anyone talk to me much but I was ok with it.
So I moved about 7 or 8 months after that and started to go back to a singles ward. And my not really talking to people carried over with me I guess. I will talk to people who talk to me but that’s about that. But anywho I got my home teaching list this past Sunday and it is the same as it was in my other singles ward. I really don’t want to have to deal with this again so why not start going to a family ward again where i know my place and where i expect to be the weird guy in the ward. Am I made out for a singles ward or should I just except who I am and go to a family ward. My guess is no one will read this anyway.
I started to get bored of my church calling about a year ago and asked to be released and I listed the reason why I wanted out. Well when they called me to a new calling it had every reason why I hated my current calling. While I did accept the calling I made it clear that I did not really want for said reason. As well as other. The bishop told me not to worry about it that that he would call other in the committee so make it so that I wouldn’t have to do everything. And he never did. I felt that he just said what was every best at the moment to get me to accept the calling. This was the last time I felt that the bishop did something like this to me.
I also had a big issue with my home teaching list. It was pretty much the opposite of a visiting teaching just mainly dudes. I didn’t think I was asking for much to make it more balance. I felt that every time I got my home teaching list was this way. I went to the elder quorum after each time getting it and asked for change. I kept on be told that it will be change and then followed by some lame excuse why it was change. Like 'Oh we must of forgot to do it' or 'we did change it but we must of unchanged it when we realized their roommate was being taught by someone one else' or 'Its to hard to make the list even because there is more girls that are living with each other then guys so it cant be done' To which I thought ok a ratio of 9 guys to 2 girls is no the reason why that is but what ever. Then one time I found out that they where making changes to the list. I sent a quick text that said 'be sure to add some girls my home teaching list'. I got a text back saying 'how do you know we are redoing them' to which I responded back 'I know everything'. When Sunday rolled around I got my home teaching list and it was the same as before. So I pretty much threw the list back in one of the counselor face and walked out of the church. We did come by my place that day and we talked about it. Then a few days later The president talked with me about it. 1 person was added after that I was still unhappy about it (it was more a slap in the face to me. we know that you have an issue with this so we will just add one name to your list). It seemed like they just didn’t cared about it enough to change it. because after all I am a loser why should they care.
I stayed in the singles ward for a while longer but I realized after awhile this ward is not for me. So i started to go to a family ward where I figured you know what they wont care about me as well because I am a single guy and I’m ok with that because I expect that of a family ward and not a singles ward. So i went each week and really didn’t talk to anyone nor did anyone talk to me much but I was ok with it.
So I moved about 7 or 8 months after that and started to go back to a singles ward. And my not really talking to people carried over with me I guess. I will talk to people who talk to me but that’s about that. But anywho I got my home teaching list this past Sunday and it is the same as it was in my other singles ward. I really don’t want to have to deal with this again so why not start going to a family ward again where i know my place and where i expect to be the weird guy in the ward. Am I made out for a singles ward or should I just except who I am and go to a family ward. My guess is no one will read this anyway.
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